Psychologies Magazine 11/06/19

"I'm so worried about my adult son's drinking" - Mary Fenwick, agony aunt for Psychologies magazine, answers this reader's question:

"I don't know what to do about my adult son. He does not seem to care about himself, his job or his health and I am at my wits' end. He binge drinks all weekend, and I strongly suspect uses cocaine too. He works, but he was educated to a high level and I believe he could achieve much more. He is very overweight and shows little responsibility for his actions, although he is riddled with guilt and self-loathing. His lack of self-care extends even to his personal hygiene.
His father, my ex, is an alcoholic and a bad influence. (My son splits his time between our two homes while he saves for his own place.) Alcoholism runs in the family and I am terrified he in going down that path. It killed my dad and it's killing his father, who is very dependent on my son. I am so worried he will end up like them. "
He is aware of his problem but seems to be stuck. He is on antidepressants and under the care of a nurse at the GP surgery. I try to shower him with love to improve his self-worth but I feel his father brings him down again.