1-1 Coaching

I offer one-to-one coaching packages.

Each one is tailor-made, because every client is different.

Having said that, there are common themes:

  • confidence (how do I come across in meetings or when speaking in public?)

  • priorities and time management (how do I decide what to say yes or no to?)

  • suddenly I’m a leader, what sort of leader do I want to be?

Then there are the less defined issues, also very real:

  • something is not right, but I can’t put it into words yet

  • I know what I need to do, why don’t I get it done?

  • there’s more I could be doing, but I don’t know where to start looking

  • everyone looks at me and sees success, but I’m not sure about the price I’m paying

With coaching clients, there is nearly always an informal chat first, where we both decide whether we want to work with each other.

At our first coaching meeting after that, we will agree an outline to cover:

  • What’s going well and how to maximise it

  • How to create the conditions for your best work

  • A personal database of tools to build your self-knowledge

 
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Some of the tools I use:

  • a strengths assessment. I like the Values in Action survey here https://www.viacharacter.org/

  • MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) which helps to understand your own unconscious preferences, how you make judgments, and use time. I qualified in MBTI in 2015. In my opinion some of the claims made for this psychometric are over-blown, but it’s certainly a useful basis – not least because it is widely used, so it has become a common language.

  • The leadership elements of www.teamsandleadership.com which I also use in team coaching. It’s particularly useful because it’s based on your own current experience of leadership, and how that compares practically with other leaders.

  • narrative coaching. I was in the first cohort worldwide to be certified in these techniques, which bring together narrative therapy and coaching. It’s a way of listening to the stories you tell yourself and other people, and deciding which ones support your aspirations now https://narrativecoaching.com/what-is-narrative-coaching

Coaching is not counselling or therapy.

Sometimes coaching will help you focus on the need for therapy, or vice versa. Don’t allow this distinction to stop you from starting somewhere! In case this helps, here are some of the differences:

(a) Coaches work with people who are well and functioning at a high level

(b) Coaching focusses on the present and the future. Issues which are about the past, and how it’s affecting your present are best dealt with by therapy.

(c) Coaching tends to be a short, focused intervention. Therapy usually involves weekly sessions of 50 minutes and it might be open-ended. Coaching is more often a contract for three to six months. A typical pattern for me would be one face-to-face meeting a month, usually around an hour and a half, then a half hour follow-up phone call two weeks later. I’m available to my clients for quick questions via email or text in between.

(d) Usually the coach comes to the client, whereas a client travels to visit a therapist. This is changing with virtual technologies, but in general coaching is more designed to fit into a working day. Coaching can be better value when you are a person who charges highly for your own time.

In my work writing for Psychologies magazine, I’m often asked if I’m a therapist. It’s important to me, with my journalist hat on, that I’m not.

The distinctions between coaching and therapy matter a great deal to me, and I want to be clear about respecting the boundary. I’ve had a lot of therapy, and believe in it strongly, and I also have my own coach and coaching supervisor.

If you’d like an idea of how coaching might work for you, please get in touch with me.

If you think therapy might be more your answer, take a look here:

https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk - The UK Council for Psychotherapy: organisation for the education, training, accreditation and regulation of psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors in the UK. Also offers a searchable database of therapists.

www.welldoing.org  A therapist matching service for in-person and online therapy, with a focus on finding you the right therapist, not just the closest or cheapest. Research has shown that the fit between client and therapist is more important to the success of therapy than any other element.

www.cosrt.org.uk - COSRT (the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists) is the UK’s professional body for therapists and counsellors specialising in psychosexual and relationship therapy issues